Love is a many-splendored thing until it becomes ugly. I will always love you until I don’t. Love will keep us together, but not always.
Sin has had a devastating effect on mankind’s nature and in this world. Selfishness rules everything, and even the love that we experience is based on selfish feeling and emotion. What drives us to desire a loving relationship and to feel good when we think we have found it?
How exactly do I fall in love?
“I love you with all my heart.” Well, not exactly. We don’t love anything with our hearts. The heart’s job, in tandem with other systems in the body, is to keep blood flowing throughout our bodies keeping us alive. In reality, we love someone “from the depths of [our] ventral tegmental area, hypothalamus, nucleus accumbens, and other vital areas of the brain.”
Love feels so nice.
The limbic system gets fired up when we fall in love, resulting in a positive mood and increased dopamine and noradrenaline production. The increase in dopamine motivates us to pursue our love interest. Noradrenaline gives us a feeling of euphoria, causing the heart to race, increasing energy, and exciting the stomach butterflies.
Love is blind.
However, this increase of dopamine and noradrenaline also deactivates other areas of the brain, specifically those that control negative emotions and judgment. This explains why we are initially willing to overlook a new love’s faults. While we feel less judgmental, our cortisol level increases, and we experience feelings of insecurity early in the new love relationship.
That’s when the body sends the hormones oxytocin (the love hormone) and vasopressin to help us feel safe and secure. Oxytocin helps us form social connections and reinforces attachment. Later, as the relationship grows, our bodies release oxytocin and vasopressin over time, fostering love and commitment between us and our beloved.
I don’t love you like that, but I still love you.
Oxytocin is vital in all types of love. The oxytocin the body releases as we interact with others strengthens romantic love and other positive social relationships—such as those with family, friends, and even pets.
Love makes us healthier.
Love lowers blood pressure and decreases the risk of heart disease.
Love strengthens the immune system, so we are less likely to get sick, and helps us recover more quickly if we do. This is possible because the feeling of love helps nurture and support your gut microbiome, which defends your body against harmful bacteria.
People who experience true love live longer.
Love decreases stress, anxiety, and depression, so we can sleep better.
Love improves problem-solving skills and cognitive function.
Looking at the one you love can reduce pain levels.
Ultimate love.
Love isn’t just the right chemical cocktail of very intricate and complex behaviors and emotions. Science can’t figure it out, but we know where true love comes from. The One who marvelously made the human body and gave it the capacity to nurture love is the One who manifested love in the flesh. His life was one of continual and ultimate sacrifice, and He promises that we, too, will be enabled to make the ultimate sacrifice of self for the benefit of those He loves.
“In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.” 1 John 4:9, 10
Sources: clevelandclinic.org/health/body/22566-hypothalamus; verywellhealth.com/the-brain-in-love; theconversation.com/what-happens-in-our-brain-and-body-when-were-in-love; uthealthaustin.org/blog/health-benefits-of-love, accessibility: February 2025